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Jean
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life is pain, life is risk. No, life ISNT fair the very most of the time. get used to that idea, or be miserable. there's NO guarntee's at all except that you WILL die someday, somehow. but dont push it that time any closer then nessasary if you are wise.
its not ALL bad. love usually tends to find you WHEN YOU ARENT LOOKING for it. the more desperate you search, generally the worst youll find (or are unconciously setteling for. im not sure on that point, but it makes sound psychological sense). when you find it, grab on, HANG on and make it last. true long term relationships take WORK on both people's part, or it wont last.
before i was married i asked some advice from a friend on how theyd stayed married so long... i was told, and after 11 years of marrage i can validate this as true, that sometimes you wont FEEL love for that person. at that time you have to make a very concious decision TO love that person. it works. time changes, situations change and what you thought was lost is found again.
no matter what tho, no matter HOW much life sucks and you might hate it, youve GOT to find your motivation! something to keep you going.. anything. family, friends... anything or one. deep down inside you are waring. the consious mind may want an out, but the unconcious is stronger and DOSNT want that! it wants to remain! that's primal... nothing you can do about it, its there if you realise it or not. use it to your advantage. ANY excuse or reason to keep going till you find yourself in a better place, and dont have the difficulty you did. remember tho, wherever you go, whatever you do you WILL have problems/challanges to deal with. the trick is to be in a place where THAT set of problems/challanges are much more handelable. differant people deal with the same challanges with greatly differing degrees of difficulty after all. find what's easiest for you and hang in there with the tenacity of a pitbull! :)
