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Hello everyone,

dont know if i am at the "correct place", but anyway.
I am a happily married wife and 8 months pregnant. I have experienced many things in my life and i certainly DO now how to avoid emotional traps.

But lets take it from the beginning. I am playing since October almost daily and recently i was sick for 2 weeks , didnt touch my PC at all. And i was really happy and smiling when i logged and my soc-mates were happy to see me after that long( small soc but a happy one).But one member ignored me. He, the uber of our society. The man that was the first to say Allo! every time i logged.And we are talking about a real man( if some ladies here know what i mean), a real gentleman. And after a while he announces he is leaving the society!!!!!!!.
I dont know what i felt that moment!! We were in the same society for 6 months, and we grew like father and mother icon to the rest of the soc-mates. They were trusting us, and depending on us. They were never let down and never gave up because of our actions and words. At bad times,where there is no loot for days and it gets u in the nerves and want to dissapear, our inspiring conversations kept them going. I even spent 3 weeks killing berries with a tt shortblade, to prove a point.The MAN that shared together many PE dreams, thoughts,agonies, let downs etc etc etc. The man,that even though i never seen him,never heard his voice, but we were "talking" everyday. And he dared to say that we dont have the same interests. After 6 months. I went bananas, gringos.
I know, i was harsh at him but lost all my respect to him. Even if he promised to inform the rest of the soc-mates that he is leaving, he didnt. I logged the next day and as soon i saw my avatar, he left the society. He didnt even had the guts to say a soc goodbye. And i thought he was a real man. Yes he had the money.And money dont make u a man.You might have the money but not the guts. U dont deserve to be called a man. Abso-fucking-lutely.
Its 10 days know and i dont want to log. I refuse to see anyone at the moment. There are a few souls there that they miss me (real friends) but cant accept what happened to me. I feel the same way when i was 14 years old after the first sad date. Well i am much older than that and i wonder if my avatar is really a teen.New planet,new habbits,new life. Is my avatar starting to grow up? Is my emotions mine or my avatars? Im i overeacting and why?
Because in real life there is no expert about entropia i had no option but to seek your help. you the real entropians. I feel very sad and dont know what to do. I would like to hear advices and .... comments. Also if u had any similar experience. Or felt any emotions that u dont really feel IRL. Anything to help:)
 
The real question may be... Did you develop a realtionship to this online man that could pose a problem for your offline family if it didnt come to an end?
 
Are u serious???? I say it at the begging. happily married...
 
I've found the social medium inherent in online games such as PE, allows one to shape a much more malleable (and oftern more optimistic) impression of the people you interact with in-game, compared with how authentic interaction takes place in real life. I know that sounds like a "no shit, sherlock" comment, but I find that I have a tendency to build a much broader personality construct of the avatars I interact with while playing. This is strange, because for the most part this interaction is limited primarily to (rather superficial) in-game events. While illogical, more often than not, I think this is why people feel let down at times when the person behind the avatar does not conform to the often enlightened image of that person we have built in our minds. I suppose this also works in reverse... the complete EU jerks we all run into, are probably decent folk if we were to bump into them at a church supper.

on a simpler note, its also much harder via chat and Email to sort out mis-understandings. In your case I think you'd feel better if you could call this guy on the phone to hash out what transpired.
 
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GOD said:
Are u serious???? I say it at the begging. happily married...
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Well, its starting to become a well known fact that people (both male and female) can develop online relationship, conciously or unconciously, that can be be unhealthy for RL relationships.
For example chatting and playing with people of the opposite sex is starting to become a reason for the other part of a RL relationship to feel neglected, unsecure and jelous. It may seem redicilous for some, but fact is that it happens. Hell, you may even find threads about it here on this very forum (look under "accomplishments" hahahaha)
 
AquaAura said:
I've found the social medium inherent in online games such as PE, allows one to shape a much more malleable (and oftern more optimistic) impression of the people you interact with in-game, compared with how authentic interaction takes place in real life. I know that sounds like a "no shit, sherlock" comment, but I find that I have a tendency to build a much broader personality construct of the avatars I interact with while playing. This is strange, because for the most part this interaction is limited primarily to (rather superficial) in-game events. While illogical, more often than not, I think this is why people feel let down at times when the person behind the avatar does not conform to the often enlightened image of that person we have built in our minds. I suppose this also works in reverse... the complete EU jerks we all run into, are probably decent folk if we were to bump into them at a church supper.

on a more simpler note, its also much harder via chat and Email to sort out mis-understandings. In your case I think you'd feel better if you could call this guy on the phone to hash out what transpired.
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This is what i would say athough its early on sunday morning and im only on my 2nd coffee.

+rep
 
I'd say, brush it off and get on with enjoying your time with other people who aren't going to run off in a hissy fit.

Rise above it.
 
Two weeks is almost an eternity in PE and if you spoke to him daily it makes it harder. As a guildmaster in other games it does really take the wind out of your sails when your right-hand person is gone, without even a note, for 2 weeks.... :(
 
Yeah just get over it. I had a falling out with a "close friend" earlier in my EU (well PE then) days, but there were plenty of other people around so it didn't matter too much. Make some new friends.

Our soc is excellent, especially our master (hehe what a suck up) but there are nice people just running around waiting to chat / hunt from plenty of other socs etc. I have met a few recently, it's all good.
 
Well, it is easier said then done, but I have only recently learned to appreciate the ones who care for you, and move on with life. It's a fact that not everyone is going to like you, and even though you may like them, and continue to think of them as a friend, they are not obliged to reciprocate. However, to focus on the few who do not wish to be your friend, and to ignore those who care for you, is wrongheaded. I am now trying to focus on those who have shown themselves to be my real friends, from the start.

Sincerely,
Donald
 
I'm not in exactly the same situation, but similar. I was in hospital recently, it was a bit stressful, no notice whatsoever, but was out after a week.

I return (albeit temporarily as I'm having a break, as explained to my soc) to find a couple of members have left. No explanation, no goodbyes :( Now while I don't know these people that well, we've spent a reasonable amount of time together, and in soc chat. I would have thought common courtesy would have prompted these people to say cheerio, gl, off to pastures new, and from a soc leader's point of view, what it is they are offered from their new soc so I can improve my own.

But I don't know them. Those that hung around can now progress within the soc, one of them can even lead it. When I return I hope they will still be around as I'll remember them for giving me the little bit of time I needed to recover, and I consider them my friends.

To those others, good luck.
 
I would focus on the people that are left in your soc....leave it and maybe he will explain later. Perhaps he felt the relationship was too close or threatened his RL relationship or felt he was becoming too attached to you?

As for the grief and anger - I guess a lot of players have gone through that ...I had the same feeling when the leaders of the Galt Group Soc left ...with other people items and some of my items. I moved with a couple of other players from the Silvertongues to form this new soc ' the Galt Group' - I wasn't into John Galt but enjoyed talking with the people. One day I logged on and they weren't there. I felt betrayed ... felt like a fool ...for a while - then I got over it and moved on.
 
GOD said:
Hello everyone,

dont know if i am at the "correct place", but anyway.
I am a happily married wife and 8 months pregnant. I have experienced many things in my life and i certainly DO now how to avoid emotional traps.

But lets take it from the beginning. I am playing since October almost daily and recently i was sick for 2 weeks , didnt touch my PC at all. And i was really happy and smiling when i logged and my soc-mates were happy to see me after that long( small soc but a happy one).But one member ignored me. He, the uber of our society. The man that was the first to say Allo! every time i logged.And we are talking about a real man( if some ladies here know what i mean), a real gentleman. And after a while he announces he is leaving the society!!!!!!!.
I dont know what i felt that moment!! We were in the same society for 6 months, and we grew like father and mother icon to the rest of the soc-mates. They were trusting us, and depending on us. They were never let down and never gave up because of our actions and words. At bad times,where there is no loot for days and it gets u in the nerves and want to dissapear, our inspiring conversations kept them going. I even spent 3 weeks killing berries with a tt shortblade, to prove a point.The MAN that shared together many PE dreams, thoughts,agonies, let downs etc etc etc. The man,that even though i never seen him,never heard his voice, but we were "talking" everyday. And he dared to say that we dont have the same interests. After 6 months. I went bananas, gringos.
I know, i was harsh at him but lost all my respect to him. Even if he promised to inform the rest of the soc-mates that he is leaving, he didnt. I logged the next day and as soon i saw my avatar, he left the society. He didnt even had the guts to say a soc goodbye. And i thought he was a real man. Yes he had the money.And money dont make u a man.You might have the money but not the guts. U dont deserve to be called a man. Abso-fucking-lutely.
Its 10 days know and i dont want to log. I refuse to see anyone at the moment. There are a few souls there that they miss me (real friends) but cant accept what happened to me. I feel the same way when i was 14 years old after the first sad date. Well i am much older than that and i wonder if my avatar is really a teen.New planet,new habbits,new life. Is my avatar starting to grow up? Is my emotions mine or my avatars? Im i overeacting and why?
Because in real life there is no expert about entropia i had no option but to seek your help. you the real entropians. I feel very sad and dont know what to do. I would like to hear advices and .... comments. Also if u had any similar experience. Or felt any emotions that u dont really feel IRL. Anything to help:)
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It is possible that he may have seen more of a relationship between you then what really existed. And with you away sick during your pregnacy he may have had a bit of a reality check. Even the most galent of gentlemen can be a bit standoff-ish when they experiance rejection wether intentional or not.

But then again it could just as easily be something completely different. I guess you just have to carry on and be yourself. Everything else is just virtual fluff ;)
 
I would like to thank everyone for the support, thoughts,analysis, experiences,advices were really helpful. I am playing 2 days now and well, the first one was a bit weird.It is like a first start all over from the beggining.The person i bothered myself about? He didnt even say hello. Dont care any more. And i would like to apologise if i ignored anyone of u in game (think i did it:( my memory is week lately regarding names), just remind me what it is about.
Once again many thanks for everything:)
 
You have a guy in your soc hes been there for 6 months he leaves and you get mad and post a thread about it...


Its a society in pe if it bothers you that much then maybe you shouldn't play. if a guy leaving your soc does that to you im scared to think whats going to happen if you get scammed or get lag ingame and you don't get your loot.
 
Let us hear from the male in question. Then we'll grill him. :boxer: Then we'll see if he's "man" enough to apologize for being a :dunce: .
 
Leveling said:
You have a guy in your soc hes been there for 6 months he leaves and you get mad and post a thread about it...


Its a society in pe if it bothers you that much then maybe you shouldn't play. if a guy leaving your soc does that to you im scared to think whats going to happen if you get scammed or get lag ingame and you don't get your loot.
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I think your wrong in saying this. I don't think she was mad becoz he left the society, I think she was confused becoz she developed a "relationship" with this guy and he acted a bit childish in response to her being away. People DO develop relationships in this game, as some of us "talk" every single day. There are many who have become couples...Mikah & Status, Lykke & Viagra. Do not discount emotions becoz this is just a "game". The people behind the avis still have feelings and we aren't just a bunch of zeros and ones.
 
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