Love on PE?

[Phaser]

We all know about some couples who play together on PE.

Viagra and kyle are a good and very romantic example of that.

ND story also.

But much of the couples who play PE together already knew each other before.

So thats why I made this poll and check some feedback, from the romantic guys and girls of Calypso.

Do you think its possible for 2 people interact with each other and get in love?

 

[Noggin]

We all know about some couples who play together on PE.

Viagra and kyle are a good and very romantic example of that.

ND story also.

But much of the couples who play PE together already knew each other before.

So thats why I made this poll and check some feedback, from the romantic guys and girls of Calypso.

Do you think its possible for 2 people interact with each other and get in love?

Woot!! Did VF leave Lykke for Kyle? OMG

 

[Phaser]

Woot!! Did VF leave Lykke for Kyle? OMG

Ops!

Sorry!

I was thinking about editing now since Noggin just post it, but, oh well, got to live it my mistakes.

Sorry VF and Lykke.

 

[zbryne]

its possible, ive also heard some terrible stories about <removed other game name> and people loosing their marriages over that game....


edit: is this because you and dee are hitting it off phaser? you know hes married: P

 

[Arokh]

Not really. Most of the time it turns out that nice looking female is actually a man IRL. Oh the shame on those who try to make a move and find out the hard way.

Although there are one or two exceptions where people have got lucky, for the most part I'd say no. Yeah, people interact and have a bit of fun whilst hunting or other team-based activity and it's pretty much left at that - most of the time you don't actually think about RL relationships whilst playing. Rather you're thinking "Now where's my ATH?"

Meh, maybe I'm just cold hearted. >_>

 

[arieas]

Do you think its possible for 2 people interact with each other and get in love?

Do you mean "teh sex"

Well anyway, i think its possible, though for me, it will never happen so cant base my personal experience on it.
But other people seem too. I saw a guy and girl, lets hope it was a girl, talking onhow sweet eachother was and all that love stuff.
I dont know if they knew eachother before though, probaly not as they dident seem to actully start talking about the love stuff till awhile, it started with weapon trading.

there alot of love on the forums lately, are we all in some sort of luvvie duvvy mood? Second that though...

 

[Mikah]

Love it's a strong word and a strong feeling, it can happen, it has happened, but does not happen often in Eu...
Lust, Attraction or a "Crush" I believe can happen and does happen more often than Love...imo..


Do you think its possible for 2 people interact with each other and get in love?

Absolutly.. how often it occurs, is a different story..

 

[arieas]

Love it's a strong word and a strong feeling, it can happen, it has happened, but does not happen often in Eu...
Lust, Attraction or a "Crush" I believe can happen and does happen more often than Love...imo..


Do you think its possible for 2 people interact with each other and get in love?

Absolutly.. how often it occurs, is a different story..

Cant say it happens often, as most female characters are blokes. Unless you like to roleplay or indulge in other things. But roleplay love is not the same thing though.

Walk into a bar and try pick up a woman, or maybe pop down to port alantis, you'll see a crush wont come to you. Unless their after your peds... which im working on...

 

[Noggin]

I've seen LOADS of couples in <removed other game name>, most of whom met inside <removed other game name>.

Seems to be pretty commonplace these days, and I'm sure it'll increase in frequency as time goes by. Believe it or not, even these days a lot of people's main source of social interaction is done within the boundaries of these MMOs.

Personally, I don't think you can beat the direct man-to-woman approach (or man to man, or woman to woman, or man to woman to man, erm.. you get the idea), even though these mediums are improving significantly.

However, the idea that you can be great in-game friends with somebody, only to find it blossoms into something more does seem within the realms of possibility for me... It's nice to know that it CAN happen!

PS. MS9, I took the liberty of doing your work for you, as you seem to have your work cut out lately

 

[zbryne]

what the <removed other game name>, why cant we say <removed other game name>?

 

[Noggin]

Apparently, any mention of <removed other game name>, <removed other game name>, or even <removed other game name> is strictly against the forum rules.

Nobody really knows why this rule is so strict, and we question it, but it never changes. So poor ol' MS9 has to keep taking <removed other game name> and replacing it with "<removed other game name>".

I'm off to play some <removed other game name>. Cya later!

 

[MindStar9]

Nice to see you're moderating yourself Noggin ... but then everyone knows that I don't make the rules at the forum, MB does, so I guess I can say don't shoot the messenger.

Now, let's plz keep this on topic and hear more about the love connections!


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[Phaser]

I understand all of this, some of you think its possible and some dont. A crush, an atraction or just plain sex is a possiblity ofc.

But, what if, after chating alot, knowing some things (who I cant say are true or not ofc) you start to see that you have something in comon. (misspell?)

I mean, what would happend, if you start to exchange emails, pics, talking about everything and about nothing... or you always feel jumpy when you log in on PE, check the EF Pm´s, email.... just waiting if the other one has reply or said something to you.

Just describing the feelings or be honest with the other one, would that be possible?
Im a kinda of romantic guy, yeah I know alot of the guys who play PE play like a macho man lol, but on the other side of the screen, they not so strong...

I think sometimes words writing or not, have more meaning even if you are far away like in other country, from the other one.
Maybe some sensitive side will atract the other person and they both start to feel something more then just a friendly chat. Maybe a conection of feelings and point of views will just be in the right line for both. I think thats possible.

Ofc, you can get suprises, be a guy who thinks loves a girl, girl is a man and so on.

Im not talking of casual sex, even more if this situation happens with people of diferent countries.
I´d like to see anyone who might be in that situation of a good friendship and evolve to a real love and get together in real life post here they story.
Would they meet to the expectations of each other before meeting? Physical? Psycological? Anyway?

I think a relation made here or in the internet can goes much beyond the physical atraction, since theres more interaction and we need to talk more. Much people who meet irl have problems in they relation since they dont talk much. In this way, theres more time to talk, to feel, to know.

I know the dangers of the internet, im not a noob on that, im 33 and I have been around with computers for some time (too much time lol). Everyday we ear stories of people who thought they were in love and get cheated, !!!!!, kill or even worse if all that were not worse enough.

We all already know of child abuse, even if we know PE is not for kids, friendly talk and so on and a kid got abused.

The dangers are real I know, but, what if?...

 

[Zetanian]

Apparently, any mention of <removed other game name>, <removed other game name>, or even <removed other game name> is strictly against the forum rules.

Nobody really knows why this rule is so strict, and we question it, but it never changes. So poor ol' MS9 has to keep taking <removed other game name> and replacing it with "<removed other game name>".

I'm off to play some <removed other game name>. Cya later!

hahahaha

Thats all i have to say really

 

[DevAng]

So Phaser , I see you are falling in love with someone and want to see if we think it's ok

Who's the unlucky guy? It's not me is it?

 

[arieas]

Would they meet to the expectations of each other before meeting? Physical? Psycological? Anyway?

Bit childish.


I see where you getting at phaser. No other usefull comments.. hmm.
The person may feel a strong sense of love, but in the end the it may not be that, just sexual craving. Love that phrase, sexual craving.

Theres only one real good way to see what online love can do. Experiment
We got to get ginue, whatever the heck, pigs or maybe set up anevent to make people seek couples, man with woman and man with man and women with women if they desire, emono e emono.

Then see how they enjoy eachothers compnay and see what follows. If they like eachother, then love i fully achieveable in EU. Then love could happen just anyhow.
How about a prom?
Of course we wouldent force people together, but if people found others to go with then it could show they have an interest in the guy or babe.
Actually anyone wnat to continue this idea? For real?

Well we'll will probaly only know when it happens if love really can be found here, of ocurse its happened before, but like phaser put, love, sex and all that wild stuff.
Guinea!

 

[Phaser]

Bit childish.

For sex I dont need the net. Maybe I havent explain myself well, sorry not english here.

If you had read my post with a bit more attention, you noticed that I was talking of couples who meet in PE and get together. I just wanted to know if they meet each other expectations after meeting in real life thats all.

DevAng:

Numa esquina escura ainda te avio por tras.

 

[Doe]

nvm............

 

[MindStar9]

Just as a teaser and FYI ... I'm going to come back to this thread and add my take on all of this when I have a little bit more time bcuz Phaser's inquiry about internet-based connections that turn into friendships, and then perhaps more, and eventually into IRL meetings has a lot of validity to it.

I did a lot of internet-based research for my Master's Thesis as it relates to relationships and have a thing or two to contribute, so hopefully it'll help to expand this discussion a bit.

Sorry I don't have the time at the moment, but just wanted Phaser to know that what he stated in his original post DOES speak to many components that are dynamic in relationships in general, but those that are internet-based to begin with are progressive in a whole different way.

And for the record ... it's not childish whatsoever! I admire that Phaser is a romantic ... don't know too many women who don't want that in a relationship, so good for you Phaser. It's a FEEL good thing!

I'll be back!


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[dee]

i dont think its about a woman though

 

[Nea]

love, hardly, crush, more likely.

 

[MindStar9]

i dont think its about a woman though

Ok, point well taken, so then let me reframe my comment more appropriately ... it really doesn't matter whether you're male or female, bcuz I know plenty of people regardless of orientation who absolutely appreciate the romance factor in a relationship.

Let's keep this discussion about the original post and the questions that Phaser is asking the community to respond to. I'll be back on Friday to add more not only from personal experience, but from research and professional experience as well.

It'll be interesting to hear other viewpoints.


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[Phaser]

i dont think its about a woman though

A bit miss understanding here MS

Me and Dee have a in-game joke about us wich im not going to reveal here to not offend anyone.

Dee, stfu lol.

sacrifice your own interrests for the partner's benefit,wonderfull momments together, deep human relationship , generosity, compasion, understanding , support, happiness and gratitude for the simple fact that your partner does exist the way he/she does, involving your IRL status and interrests into all these......well.....if you call this love....it already happens. Yes, in EU.

Thats the kind of reaction I was expecting. Ty Doe.

Its exactly the point. If you love someone, you dont want just to get sex, or having a good time. Like I said before, if I wanted sex, I dont need PE.
(i know its EU but its old habits lol).

Doe, did touch a valid point. After all, if you meet someone in PE or any other virtual enviroment, if both people have a good relation based on friendship, why could not the feeling go beyond that? After all, the interaction is human even if it is at a long distance. For centuries, people express they feelings to each other by letters, ofc they had to meet anyway to do that, but when they got far from each other, the feeling just increased.

Today on our modern world, most people, including me, feel much more "at ease" to use this kind of interactment that PE offers. Most people judge others first for what they look, not for what they are. Here, behind screen the keyboard is our way to know people better. After all you dont even imagine what the other part look like, but you know that person have something you apreciate or desire. Not "desire" like sexual way, but a desire of passion, caring, friendship, apreciation for that person exist and want to be near you.

After all, its a 2 way feeling. Sinceraly I believe much more in a honest and real relation wich originate in love behind the screen, that on a normal relation wich we meet someone in real life. We are 24/7 been avaliated by the other person. Much of the times those relations fails. Some will suceed with efort and caring from both but that takes alot of effort.

Most of you who read this or the ones who post some coments might think " this guy lost it and got in love from someone" - What if I did. Will I love more or less, worry more or less, about that person feelings, condition of life, etc, then on a "real" person in a rl meeting?
I dont think so. If someone is really honest about him/her that should not be a problem at all, in fact I think it takes alot of courage, and true feelings to expose something like this.

love, hardly, crush, more likely.

Come on. I know you can do better then that.

That means you dont believe that true love can happen here?
One thing I know will not happen, is me or you having a ATH in the next few days.

You can have a crush, but having so, you will not have so many worries about what the other person might feel, or even you might just be courious about her. If you really care, worry about her life, have a true understanding when talking ( chating) with each other, have alot of things that you both like, and if the other person also feel the same way, I can hardly call it a crush. Anyway, I already explain my point of view about that before.

 

[dee]

Well IMO love involves several factors. Spiritual connection, intelligence connection, and physical connection. You are getting the first 2, but the latter is still up in the air. So i'd say it could'nt possibly be "true love" until the couple was to meet in rl.

 

[ViagraFalls]

Let's go back one year.

When we ended up in the same society, we both just got out of a relationship. We found we enjoyed hunting together, and did so for a few hours a day. A friendship came out of that.

We started discussing other, non-PE related stuff together as well, and exchanged MSN addresses. Friendship turned into a "I hope she's online when I sign in" kind of thing. And it wasn't too long after that that I realised we clicked even beyond that.

At that time I wasn't too sure on how she saw things, and rather than risk the friendship, I decided to tell her how I fellt. And luckily rather than telling me to fuck off, she actually took that quite well *LOL* Not two weeks later, we uttered those three magic words to one another.

The next few weeks were spent trying to figure out where to go next. She was going to move, she was switching jobs, and she wanted to have that behind her before we would hook up. She was also a bit worried about her kids having to make those changes, and at the same time cope with mommy having a new boyfriend.

We decided we would wait two and a half months and meet up in neutral territory, Berlin. It would be hell, but it would be the best way to deal with everything.

And then, at some point, she took up my offer to help her move out. I offered before, but she always refused, based on the situation described above. She eventually decided it would be better to have some help after all, and so I ended up driving over.

When it comes to our first meeting, that must have been extremely weird for Lykke. I drove for about 10 hours or so, and was exhausted when I got there. It took a few cups of coffee before I was back to being myself. We spent a weekend together, and saying goodbye was hell. But the countdown to Berlin went fast, I went back there for new year's, and ever since, we've consistently been together at least every other weekend.

So far all expectations were exceeded, we still manage to surprise one another, and every time I see her again I'm falling in love all over again

 

[Phaser]

Thx alot for sharing your story VF. I read about you on the Entropian and im a bit jealous of you. You could make a friendship going beyond that, and you have a dream come true.

I think this is the kind of honesty that I was talking about in my earlier posts. When 2 people meet and have alot of other interests the friendship should go beyond that.

Its very, very nice when it happens.

Im glad for you both and wish you all the best.

 

[Phaser]

Just a bit courious, what was the feeling or the reaction when you 2 first meet?

 

[Lykke]

Just a bit courious, what was the feeling or the reaction when you 2 first meet?

My first reaction .. wow, he IS tall! After the coffee? Kiss in the kitchen ... then jumping! Then it was just the most natural thing in the world and felt like we known each other forever (the good way though )



Btw... VF .. who's Kyle?

 

[ViagraFalls]

Just a bit courious, what was the feeling or the reaction when you 2 first meet?

Wow, she's a hobbit.

*runs*

 

[Lykke]

Wow, she's a hobbit.

*runs*

OH well - I can forgive you ... your the only guy I known who is tall even when your laying down